Afghanistan Conversations

Yesterday, 21 September, our delegation met to continue our preparations for our journey to Afghanistan.  We are four in number at present but there is a fifth person who has not been able to make the meetings yet.  We hope she will join us for our community building in October.

Maya, Beth, Ariadne and myself met up at Caffe Nero in Kensington and set off for our first visit to the Afghan Embassy which is opposite Hyde Park.  Our intention was to apply for our visas but, although we had everything else, we discovered we needed letters of invitation.  Hopefully these will come soon and we were not too disappointed not to get the process underway yeaterday.  We all feel more confident now about returning to the embassy to deliver our papers.

After Kensington, we decided to visit Whitechapel to shop!  We hopped on the District Line and were soon in the market.  Our aim?  To buy shalwar kameez to wear  in Afghanistan!  Really, all we need are clothes which cover us and are loose fitting, so that we don’t look too Western and so that we can wear thermals underneath!  It will be very cold!

After Whitechapel, we took off for Kings Cross and the Peace News office for the most exciting part of our day.

The group we shall be staying with, Afghan Peace Volunteers, hold a Global Day of Listening on the 21st of each month.  By using the internet, skype and telephones, it is possible to set up a time to speak to them.  They stay connected all day and speak to many groups from all around the world.  Someone from the Voices for Creative Nonviolence coordinates the conversations and yesterday it was Kathy Kelly, founder of VCNV and a frequent visitor to Afghanistan.  Indeed, she may well be there when we go in December.  I met Kathy many times whilst I was living in the States and she is keen that I go to Afghanistan because of our house of hospitality in Oxford, St. Francis House, which is an example of people from different countries and  cultures living together.  She is a remarkable woman and has been visiting and supporting people in war zones for many years.  She was in Iraq throughout the early months of the U.S. bombing in 2003.

As we joined the skype conversation, a group of students from Long Island, New York had just finished their slot.  Linked by Kathy we introduced ourselves and the young men in Kabul introduced themselves.  They asked us questions and I was touched that they were so interested in St Francis House, particularly asking questions about how people got on and how conflict is resolved.  Beth and Ariadne talked to them about their hopes to produce a book and a documentary on our visit and asked them for ideas about linking up when we return.

The conversation was then joined by someone working with children in Gaza and another group of thirteen year olds from the States!

We hope to do the same thing in October, when hopefully Mary, our fifth delegate, will be with us.

After the skyping we had a meeting addressing practicalities of our travels and found a relatively inexpensive ticket option on line which we will be able to book once we have our visas.  Our projected travel date is 17/18 December and we will stay for two weeks or perhaps a few days more.

I am enjoying getting to know the other women and working together to make this journey possible.

My Becoming Friends companion at Oxford Quakers, Gwithian, has suggested that we set up a support group for me  from Friends at the Meeting.  This is something that Quakers do for community members who are contemplating doing something out of the ordinary or particularly difficult.  Our first meeting is on Wednesday and Beth, who lives in Oxford and has been associated with Quakers, will join us.

It is comforting to kow that my two journeys, towards Quaker faith and life and to Afghanistan, are so closely linked.

Becoming Friends Two: Advices and Queries

“Take heed, dear Friends, to the promptings of love and truth in your hearts”

These are the opening words of the small book called “Advices and Queries” which sets out suggestions for living as a Quaker.  It is a gem of a text.  It contains forty one short paragraphs which invite the reader to reflect on faith and life as a Quaker.

In the “Becomong Friends” book which I am following as part of my journey towards Quaker life, it suggests different ways of using A.& Q.  I am fortunate to have a Becoming Friends companion who is accompnying me on the journey and we meet each week.  We have just spent a few weeks on the different aspects of A.& Q. and shareed our favourite passsages.  The text can be divided into sections which examine the inner life, meeting for worship, meeting for worship for business, moving from worship to community, living as a Quaker, and testimonies and faith in action.

I’ve been using Advices and Queries as part of my daily prayer time and it really does lend itself to slow, meditative reading.  It is in reflecting on this text that I realise why I am so attracted to the Quaker way of life.  Sometimes it is said that Quakers are “woolly minded liberals” yet this text is challenging and searching as well as being gentle and compassionate.  In the Introduction we are told that:

“It is for the comfort amd discomfort of Friends that these advices and queries are offered, with the hope that we may all be more faithful and find deeper joy in God’s service”

I am, and always will be, a Christian and as such I do believe in life after death.  However, I don’t believe that that is the goal of our life here on earth but that it is something which happens to all of us.  I believe that the goal of my life is to serve God with a joyful heart and that this joy comes from fidelity.  I find echoes of this in all I’ve read in Quaker writings. That is why I feel at home in the Society of Friends

I may use this journal to take a number from A. & Q. and reflect on it as the spirit moves.  Here is the quotation from George Fox which is found at the end and which I first saw many years ago as a text outside Friends House in London, or at least the final words.

Be patterns, be examples in all countries, places, islands, nations, wherever you come, that your carriage and life may preach among all sorts of people, and to them; THEN YOU WILL COME TO WALK CHEERFULLY OVER THE WORLD, ANSWERING THAT OF GOD IN EVERYONE.